Monthly Archives: May 2013

Thank You, Katie + Erin

Couples like Katie and Erin should feel celebrated, worthy, and equal as they undertake the incredibly brave and beautiful task of committing to walk a path together for the rest of their days. Just like every other couple making the same journey, they know it won’t always be easy. They know that life will change them over time, and that in addition to times of deep gratitude and idyllic happiness, they will also find grief and difficulty along the way. Making a promise to respect and love each other, and to come through those difficulties holding hands every time, is the single greatest act of faith and hope that one can make with one’s partner.

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Erin BailMay 15, 2013 - 5:08 pm

What would Jesus do> He didn’t discriminate!

NatalieMay 16, 2013 - 9:14 am

Increddibly well written! So disappointed to hear that there are people in our community – let alone the wedding community who don’t respect love. I assure you, this Caterer will not be recommending or referring any couples to Fluer Cakes -

Joseph | IQ PhotoJuly 3, 2013 - 9:09 am

Thanks for sharing the story! I’m glad Katie and Erin got a great deal of support from the LGBT community and even got free cake after they were turned away by Fleur Cakes over extremely sexist beliefs! Great shots of the couple, by the way! :)

It’s Sad When Some People Won’t Bake for Gays.

Luckily, we have Cupcake Jones.

When Lisa Watson of Cupcake Jones heard about Katie and Erin’s cake debacle, she promptly offered to bake cupcakes for Katie and Erin’s wedding in exchange for a donation to Basic Rights Oregon. As a thank-you to Lisa for being an awesome human being, here is a photo of some of her amazing cupcakes, from a wedding I photographed a few years ago!

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An Open Letter to Fleur Cakes

When we met in October of last year at a beautiful Hood River wedding, I was astonished by the beauty of the cakes and pies you had created. I assured you that I would photograph the heck out of the cakes and pies, and make sure to share images online to help promote your business. And I did.

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AnnMay 15, 2013 - 9:10 pm

Thank you for writing this. It deeply saddens me that the homosexual community is still discriminated against. Fleur Cakes’ principles are severely skewed. What she did was hateful any way it is explained. Fleur Cakes, if you are reading this please understand that homosexuality is not a choice. Please be accepting of other people that are doing no harm to you by loving each other.

JohnMay 15, 2013 - 10:15 pm

I don’t care who it’s directed at, but it’s simply unacceptable to withhold service like this and segregate a public company. It’s in fact illegal in OR. You must serve the public if you own a public company. If this lady really wanted to stand on her so-called ‘principles’ she should close down the business.

PS: I’d bet a lot that this lady has done business with divorcees, adulterers, etc. … that she’s just a simple homophobe trying to hide behind a word like ‘principles’ when she doesn’t really have any. I’d still protest the action if I was wrong on that, but I’m tired of all the hypocrisy and semantics (Relavent example: Ask a modern white supremacist if they are racist and almost all will say that they are not, that they are just upholding ‘tradition,’ ‘principles,’ ‘truth,’ etc. Barf. I’m sick of all the BS).

Christina McGheeMay 16, 2013 - 8:55 am

All my love to Katie and Erin. May we all have the strength to be who we are and shine so bright!

BelMay 20, 2013 - 2:30 pm


As a footnote to your heartfelt open letter, please allow me to add that someone needs to inform Fleur Cakes that, when a business provides a service to the public, it’s required to abide by the rules of that state which issued its business license.

More to the point, why should a gay or lesbian couple have to screen businesses to see what their belief systems are? I don’t know if it’s a matter of ignorance or arrogant privilege, but Pamela Regentin is apparently of the mindset that any consumer has the time or money to try multiple businesses if one or more of them refuses service for any reason — like she just did. She simply presumes that every consumer can afford this potentially huge burden, while it’s her privilege as a business owner to get away with discrimination in the commercial sphere.

Whether it’s a wedding cake, a hotel room, housing or other, gay and lesbian couples have the right to expect the same services provided to them by a commercial business as an interfaith, interracial or any other couple would.

You have a right to practice your religion in this country as you see fit, Pam — on your own time. You don’t have the right to practice it on other people and at their expense. It’s really that simple.

Jay McHueMay 21, 2013 - 8:32 am

Wow. So extortion is the name of the game now, huh? “Comply or we will run you out of business!” The Mafia would be proud.

AnthonyMay 21, 2013 - 10:24 am

It warms my heart to see this letter in support of Katie ad Erin and to see not only the LGBT community come together but our straight allies coming forward too! We must make it known that bigotry and intolerances are completely unacceptable in this day and age!

DebiMay 21, 2013 - 2:17 pm

Thank you.

ShellyMay 21, 2013 - 2:37 pm

As a straight ally, I’m wondering what the legal ramifications of this decision will be. As others have pointed out, discrimination is against the law in Oregon. What is being done about this legally? I heard Erin & Katie don’t want to press charges, but the fact remains this is an illegal act that has now been broadcasted throughout the community. Fleur Cakes should be sanctioned for this act, legally.

Edith K. HallMay 21, 2013 - 2:50 pm

Thank you so much for taking a stand for same-sex couples.

ShaneMay 23, 2013 - 6:05 am

Well written letter. @Jay Mchue, you may want to look up the definition of extortion. You have your legal terms a bit mixed up.

Jen HechtMay 23, 2013 - 3:01 pm

Hi Flying Colorado,

I wrote you an email directly, but in case you’re looking for your email here, I wanted to let you know that I removed your comment from this blog post. I absolutely welcome a healthy discourse and differing viewpoints and debate, so despite the fact that we disagree on this topic, I would have approved your comment. However, my blog isn’t a place for hate speech or slurs like “gaytard”. If you’d like to post again without resorting to hate speech, I’ll be happy to include your comment on my blog.


Jen Hecht